Mo(o)nday Drops 🌙

When “normal” is just what you’ve learned to tolerate and how it may be disrupting your life

There is something very important that people seem to still not understand.

Just because you have tolerated certain symptoms your whole life, doesn’t mean that things are “good”.

“Yes — I have gas everyday but my digestion seems to be fine!”

“Oh ya, I get my period once a month, but I have to take Advil for days to mitigate my period cramps”

“Sleep has been an issue for about 10 years, but I’ve always been a night owl.”

“It’s not really bad. It’s just anxiety around my luteal phase.”

“I still worked out every day, even though I was so exhausted.”

“I thought this was just what happened before your period.”

“I let myself be miserable for quite a long time. Then I realized, ‘Oh—I actually don’t want to live like this anymore.’”

These are real versions of things women have said to me.

Today’s Mo(o)nday Drop is:

When “normal” is just what you’ve learned to tolerate

What makes me so sad is that we have completely normalized the experience of discomfort.

And I’m not talking about the discomfort that comes with growing, taking a risk or stepping outside of your comfort zone.

No.

This is about women feeling like they need to keep pushing through their day to day symptoms because no one has ever told us differently.

What I continue to see over and over again is not only repeating symptoms, but how easy it is for women to write them off.

We’ve learned to call exhaustion ambition.
Anxiety normal.
Pain part of being a woman.
Disconnection independence.
And equate functioning to feeling well.

No wonder why this has happened.

For generations, women have had to fight to be respected, praised and taken seriously. We learned that recognition often came from overriding the very things that made us human.

To function on a 24 hour clock.
To turn off our hormones using birth control so that we wouldn’t have to skip a meeting.
To disconnect from our bodies sensually otherwise we were deemed a slut.
To bend over backwards for others, always putting our needs last.

This is what has been ingrained in us.

It is disturbing.

Just because we have been able to survive feeling this way for most of our lives, doesn’t mean that we are “good”.

I continue to be reminded of how depleted women have become due to their symptoms. How hard it is for them to be able to live 1 whole month without any symptoms.

Do you know how many years of your life that is??

A lot.

The more we accept these symptoms as “normal” or “good”, we put our bodies more at risk. We miss what our bodies have been trying to communicate.

We burnout.
We lose our periods.
We let anxiety dictates our choices.
We struggle to recognize ourselves.
We deplete our system until we can no longer ignore it.

The list goes on, as we all have different versions in how our chronic symptoms manifest.

But the good news is that there is room to change this.
What you have normalized does not have to remain your reality.
We don’t need to settle for these symptoms anymore.

Yes, you read that right.

There are ways to heal your body, reconnect with your purpose and take control of your life.

Rather than life controlling you.

It takes dedication.
It takes commitment.
It takes a deep knowing that you are WORTH it.

That you are worth showing up for — even when doing so requires you to stop abandoning yourself.

So, to wrap it up:

What you tolerate becomes your normal—but it doesn’t have to remain your reality.

What have you been calling “normal” simply because you’ve experienced it for so long
Do you feel like you are worthy of healing?
Are you willing to take the steps to heal your body?

And no — committing to something for 1 month usually isn’t going to cut it when you have been dealing with these symptoms for years.

Right now is just about understanding if you are no longer willing to write yourself off.

I would genuinely love to know: what, if anything, has been stopping you from going deeper?

Xoxo,

Sam

If you are wanting some guidance on what your symptoms may be trying to tell you and if doing the deeper healing work is needed — I am offering 75 minute hormone + nervous system check ins.
We will evaluate what has been going on in your life, where adjustments can be made and action steps to start to implement on your own. This is a limited time offer to support you as we transition into fall.
You can learn more here.